Day 78: Bikram Yoga and Tennis

I took a 90 minute Bikram yoga class today with my friend Jen, in Amsterdam. It was exhilarating and exhausting and hotter than I expected and hotter than Texas heated yoga. Twice I felt like I wanted to run out of the room to catch a cold breath. But I didn’t run and sweated right through the anxiety. At the end I was happy to have finished, even if I did have to rest in a few poses while everyone else was working so hard.

I came home drenched, and took a shower before making a pot roast and baked veggies dinner and rushing off to my tennis lesson.

Life is good! I’m happy and the kids are happy!

Day 77: Enjoying the Kids

Yesterday I enjoyed a girls night out in Amsterdam and left the kids at home alone. They are old enough and we’ve done it several times, and yet I still carry some of that mommy guilt and fear. Not that fear and guilt change my choices or decisions, but those feelings do creep in and take away a small bit of the fun factor. At the same time, it makes me appreciate the time by myself to be more than a wife and mother, which sounds so cliche, but true. I am happy when I do things for myself and I think these choices make me a better mother and wife because I get reenergized and refreshed and ready to give again. Agreed?

Charlie asked me before I left, why I had to go and didn’t I love him and his siblings? Good question and I turned it around and asked him when he spent the entire day and dinner with his friend whether he loved me. And of course he then understood and explained his and my answer for himself. He was content again.

They are such good kids and when I came home, they were happy and enjoyed a night out of their normal routine too. I wanted to reward them for cooperating with each other, and for taking care of one another while I was away. So today I had a couple ideas about what to do after school to surprise them and reward them. I believe in positive parenting and rewarding the behaviors I want repeated But I was also open to what they might want to do that could possibly different than my idea of fun. And it was slightly, and was even better. The little ones invited their friends to come home with us for a snack, to do homework and to play. And instead of bike riding to dinner, as I had planned, we all went together to this magical and fun place – called Farm Lake or Boerderij Meerzicht in Dutch. There is an animal farm, playground, beautiful garden area and a restaurant. Here they serve savory as well as sweet pancakes for dinner and they were delicious and fun to experience, and a much different flavor and texture than American pancakes.Thanks to Sally for telling me about this little gem. Check out the photos.

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I loved today and playing with my monkeys! Just missed the big one who had homework! Life is good. xo

Day 76: Dutch Food

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What is streaky bacon? Bacon with fat on it? Bacon that streaks when you’re not looking. Sounds so sexy, like Freakin’ Fresh Pizza!

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My favorite food isle – Hagel slag. Can you believe how many varieties there are?

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Dutch dim sum? Frikendel, croquets, chicken nuggets, bami balls, and dipping sauce.

So much to love about Holland!

Day 75: Rituals

Do you have any favorite rituals? Usually when I try to make something a ritual, I get bored and change it. Maybe change is my ritual. Although my favorite ritual is Jeff making me coffee in the morning. However, I’ve been getting up before him and really want coffee right away, so I’ve been making my own coffee.  See? There’s that change again. 

I’ve been thinking that I need a new morning ritual. My mom used to exercise, have dinner planned, sometimes prepared and cooked, and the house clean, and she was showered with her lipstick on before 10 am.  She was ready to go on with her day, whatever that looked like.  How did she do IT? I know how – she was and IS super organized and is not a procrastinator and doesn’t have ADD!  She also knows how to prioritize and doesn’t waste time on email or Facebook! I want to be like her when I grow up. 🙂

I was trying to think about what I actually want to do in the morning before the craziness of the day begins.  Of course, my list is a 100+ things long. So I started last night by actually going to bed before midnight so that I could get up comfortably and easily in the morning.  I decided that I’d get up at 6 am, do a few yoga stretches, drink a glass of water and then make my coffee – all before anyone else got up. And guess what? I did it this morning and it was a great start to the day. I’m going to try this one again tomorrow.  I’m also going to plan what to make for dinner first thing in the morning or the night before. (Want to know what’s for dinner tomorrow?  A baked pasta dish, as requested by my regular diners.  That was easy. And for exercise? A tennis lesson tomorrow.)  So simple, right?

Speaking of rituals, blogging has become a ritual. I have posted 200 posts – that means I’ve been writing every day for more than have a year. That’s crazy to me. I actually enjoy the process of writing at the end of the day. It’s sort of relaxing when I’m not trying to figure out what to share. But.. I’m considering changing this too. I don’t want my story to become stale, and I wonder if it’s starting to get boring, me talking every day. Maybe I’ll start counting my weeks or counting by 5’s. We’ll see. Thanks for following along with me on this crazy, journey. 

Tell me – what is your favorite [daily/Halloween/Thanksgiving/Christmas/Birthday] ritual?  I’m curious…

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A Halloween Ritual from Last Year

 

Day 74: Seasons Change

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The leaves are changing colors and falling to the ground. The air is getting crisper, even as the sun is shining. And the level of the sun is at a different angle, providing an afternoon glare that wasn’t there recently. Fall is in the air.

Today I felt homesick. It first felt like anxiety and then I felt sad and I didn’t know why. It took me a while to figure out what I was feeling when I had no reason to be sad. I was having a great day, went for a run, house was clean, kids were occupied and at a friend’s house, the sun was shining, and Jeff and I had some quiet time to do whatever we wanted. I think it was the free time and quiet time that gave me a moment to relax and feel that some things were different and missing. I had no one needing me and no problems to solve and quiet space that doesn’t happen often. And then I started to miss my routines and rituals and friends (Schalk-Lees) and our first house and our BBQ and the Stanford football games and blah blah blah. I think earlier in the day I was backing up old photos and Jeff was talking about the football game scores and my parents coming and then it all just me, that I miss all that.

After I realized it and shed a few tears, I was fine again. I’m happy to be here and appreciate the new friends and family we’ve connected with, and the experience we are having here. I think I’ve ben pretty busy these first two months and now that things are starting to settle, I can breathe again and am now aware of the changes that have occurred. I miss my normal routine and relationships back home. I think that’s normal too. And I’m excited for what this new season brings, scarves and all!

Hope y’all had a good weekend! And to those back in California, I miss you!!

Day 73: windmill on a sunny day

windmill on a sunny day

Gorgeous day along the Amstel River

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I wrote a post for today and lost it while trying to post the above picture! UGH!! That part I don’t like.

So now I’ll share an abbreviated version – because it’s late and the pictures say it all. Thanks to the Holzers for inviting us to go on a ride with them. So much better than furniture shopping! They knew the way along the Amstel River and into Amsterdam, and we had a blast. Luckily for their weather app that predicted good weather from 1 – 7 pm too, because this morning, was rainy, breezy and cold! Who knew the sun would come out and stay out, especially since it was raining on us as we began?

I love days like today – where you don’t really have plans but have tentative plans, and then things just fall into place. We were supposed to meet some friends of Juliana’s, but Jeff wasn’t feeling well, so I had cancelled. Then Patti had mentioned the idea of going for a bike ride, and I was thrilled when Jeff felt up to it. We probably rode for 3 – 4 hours with a couple breaks in between.  The sun was shining and it was absolutely gorgeous and crisp out. So glad we didn’t stay indoors!!

We made thai curry and homemade pizzas for the kids as an impromptu dinner. I love when a short visit leads to hours of shared time together. Good times!  xo

gardening lady along our ride today.

Day 72: Happy Hour, Happy Friends

TGIF! Don’t you love Fridays??  It is one of my favorite days of the week. I feel like it’s time to relax and wrap up the week and usually the kids don’t have any sports’ activities, so it feels more free. Plus, there’s usually the anticipation of something fun happening on the weekend.

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Today some friends came over for happy hour to celebrate Patti’s birthday. Everyone brought something to share and it was so nice. I really enjoy entertaining and gathering friends together. I loved watching the kids all play together too, like they’ve been friends for years!  They ran outside and into the “forest” and painted nails, played computer games, and did some art projects. The little ones played with balls and play mobil toys and ate up m&m’s and fruit and crackers. The women all gathered in the kitchen, sipped wine and enjoyed Julie’s recipe for baked brie with apples, cranberries, brown sugar, cinnamon and butter – I just forgot the slivered almonds! Oh well – it was still yummy.  Great way to start the weekend!

Life is sweet. Hope you all have a good weekend. xo

Day 71: Beautiful Amsterdam

I have so many things to share, but what I loved most today was when the rain stopped and we were up on the rooftop at the Nemo museum.  The views were gorgeous and the air was crisp. I hope you enjoy the views of beautiful Amsterdam.

Gorgeous morning in Amsterdam – view from the roof top at Nemo

Amsterdam – Old and New

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What I’m realizing being in the Netherlands, is that even though I tend to highlight the differences between the NL and the USA, that life is very much the same here, as it is in the states. Even though there are several differences, my days are spent much the same way as they were in the States. There is a general busyness to the days here just as there was back home. I still have house chores, shopping, kids’ sports, dinners, kids’ homework, socializing, facebook and email to check, and exercising to do. There are beautiful places to visit and things to learn about and relationships to nurture. I’m inspired and intrigued and curious and am having fun exploring and learning in a new environment, and am enjoying the general busyness of it all. Life is good.  xo

 

 

Day 70: Haircut Day

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I finally found a place to get the boys’ haircuts today, thanks to Patti and I got there in time before the place closed. It is nearly impossible to get things done over here. Well, I shouldn’t say that exactly. It’s just impossible to get things done when you want to, quickly and efficiently and on the day you’d prefer. Typically a response I get when trying to receive a service, is “It’s not possible.”  

We tried to get haircuts last week, but they weren’t possible. Literally. And the hours the barber told me to come back with the kids weren’t possible either. And the barber wouldn’t allow me to make an appointment. Go figure. My boys were starting to look like clowns with bushy heads. They haven’t had a cut in over 70+ days!

I thought the haircuts weren’t going to be possible again today. You see, we tried yesterday, but got to the shop shortly after 5 pm and the lady said it was too late and to come back another time, that she was done for the day. 5 o’clock. Can you imagine closing that early in the states?  So today, I told the kids that we had to leave immediately after school to get to the shop before “the crowds”.  They don’t get out of school until 3:30 pm and trying to coral three kids in three different grades in a timely fashion just isn’t possible. BUT – we did get there by 4 pm. When I asked for an appointment the day before, they said… yep, you guessed it… thus the reason for the rush!!  So we walk in and there are 4 people in the shop. Jill, the hairdresser, a boy getting his hair cut and his mom and sister who are waiting. We recognize them from school and share a smile. I ask the hairdresser if she can cut the boys’  hair today and she looked a little frazzled. 

Get this – she said yes, she might be able to do it but she was very busy and that it would take a long time to wait and that she would have to stop to take a drink too, so she wasn’t sure how long we would have to wait. Really?  Jan – the mom who I became friends with by relating over this crazy interaction just smiled at each other and tried not to laugh. 

I was very sweet to Jill and asked her if we could step outside for a snack from the local bakery while she was very busy. She said yes and obliged my kids starving craziness!  Now people don’t walk around with food and drinks in their hands here. They sit politely and patiently and partake in their sustenance in a more civilized fashion. So when my kids walked back into the salon with their bakery fresh cream puff, tompouce and chocolate muffin, I of course was mortified and asked permission if we could bring the food into the salon. Jill was ever so gracious and obliged our request. And I don’t think we offended her, which was good. Luckily she spoke English too.

And before I knew it, her last customer and our new friends left and Jill finished her drink break and was able to cut both boys’ hair before 5 pm. Phew – a success. And only 38 Euros later – about $50 US dollars!  The other barber last week wanted almost that much for each kid! I love a good bargain, and friendly Dutch people!  

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Thanks to our Michigan friends, we made new friends from Michigan /Wisconsin today at the barber shop! 😉

All is well – no more clown heads today. I AM happy.

 

Day 69: Orange and Halloween

There are so many good things about the color orange:

It’s a happy color.

It’s warm.

It’s the color of the sun – at least in my drawings!

It’s bright and cheerful.

It’s the color of Holland and part of my nationality.

It’s one of my favorite colors (today).

It represents the changing of the seasons  – fall and holidays.

And it makes me think of Halloween! I love Halloween. And today, my other family sent us a care package filled with Halloween goodies that made us all so happy!! It was filled with candy and decorations and magazines and even our California mail!

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I still have the best wife ever!! 😉 Thank you for making our day and spoiling us, April!! I wish you could have seen the kids’ faces. We love Halloween and we didn’t pack any of our holiday decor and I was starting to feel a little sad about that. Halloween isn’t celebrated in Holland, although the Americans at the school are putting on a Halloween event – nothing like Halloween Happening, I’m sure!  But at least we’ll get a taste of tricks and treats. Charlie wants to be a leprechaun!! I don’t know why, but that just makes me laugh! Wish me luck in pulling off that costume!

Back to colors – what is your favorite color?

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I mentioned that mine is orange, and sometimes blue, oh, and purple and red too. But today – Orange.  Today, I looked through my closet and found these orange pieces – I have to wear these more often because they make me feel happy. I tend to wear black and neutrals, and workout clothes. I need to change this and dress it up a bit! I love to wear my orange Stella & Dot Olivia necklace – it’s my favorite piece from the Fall Collection.  Yes, I still love my Stella & Dot and wear it all over Holland. Hup, Holland!  

So what’s hanging in your closet? Are you shining in your favorite?