Being a Kid


It was 90 degrees here today and it was still warm at 7pm. Charlie has been wanting to stop and check out a local park that was remodeled while we were overseas, and so we did tonight.

I liked it because the weather was so gorgeous and because I haven’t hung out in a park with a kid in a long time. I mean we went to a park in Thousand Oaks recently, but not to play on the playground. We went there for the open space and to be out in nature.

It was strange approaching the park for a couple reasons. First, it was very crowded and the crowd was very diverse. Secondly, Charlie was one of the older kids and there weren’t any other kids his age. Third, so many parents were hovering over their children, when they were capable of exploring on their own. And finally, being there brought back memories of hanging out in parks with mainly Juliana and Christian.  It used to be our weekly routine, at least twice a week. Tonight I was very aware of time passing again and was thankful that I still had a “little” one to connect me to the past and to the present and I enjoyed every minute. Well, not every minute. There were a couple of irritating and gross things… but since this is a positive living blog, I’ll leave out those details! 😉

I love kids. I loved watching my own and I loved watching the others playing and exploring and just being kids. Here are a few of my favorite moments from today.



How was your day?  What made you smile?



Work Hard, Play Hard

This was one of my favorite moments today and it happened in a matter of one minute, right before it was time to go to school.


Jeff had just come in from working out and invited Charlie to come do 20 push ups with him.  I can’t wait to see them continue this workout together over the years as Charlie’s muscles continue to grow stronger and catch up with his dad’s. I wonder how long it will take.

We work hard and play hard and sometimes combine the two. 

Life is good.



“And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.” Corinthians

This is my tennis friend, who recently lost her home in a fire.


She wanted to take a picture of me, but I insisted we take a selfie even though she preferred otherwise. I admire her so much.

We met today to share lunch in her backyard, in between phone calls and her next appointment with a contractor. I was deeply moved and humbled by her patience, sweetness, grace and faith.

She found two plastic chairs that survived the fire in her little shed, and we sat in the shade and drank lemonade, watching a hummingbird flit around the yard and admiring her banana tree that was about to produce fruit. Some things survived.

The house is a complete loss. I peeked in to see the damage and was struck by the severity of it. The walls and roof are still standing, but the contents are all disintegrated, with soot and broken glass everywhere. Yet there were a few signs of the life once lived there, like the cloth bag hanging by the inside door handle, that she probably used regularly, waiting for her to take out shopping. I didn’t like seeing such destruction and loss.

The backyard provided refuge and I enjoyed being out there with her for a short while. She has a long road in front of her, working out the details of recovery and rebuilding. But I have faith that she will do well and face the challenge with positivity and grace. She already is. And she’s one smart woman! I can’t wait to see what the future holds for her!


House Fire

Have you ever experienced a house fire?  My friend just lost her entire house and all its contents in a fire less than two weeks ago.

She would love to talk with someone who has gone through this experience to better understand the journey and process of recovery. If you have gone through this experience, or know of someone who has, would you write to me in the comments field?

This woman lost her husband recently and now has lost her home, and all her physical memories and valuables, including her computers and iPad. I just can’t imagine what that must feel like, yet she is moving forward with dignity and grace and trying to figure out where she will live next.  I admire her strength, despite the hardship and sadness she must be feeling. 

So tonight be thankful for the beautiful space you occupy, wherever that may be and say a little prayer for my friend that she’ll find what she needs and be resting peacefully soon, in a new, fresh space to call her own.Image




Happy King’s Day from San Francisco


Today we celebrated the tradition of the Netherlands King’s Day.


Traditionally it was Queen’s day, but now that Holland has a King, they celebrate King’s Day.

It is the most nationalistic holiday celebration I’ve ever experienced and even bigger than the Fourth of July in America.

Everyone celebrates by dressing in orange and the Dutch flag colors, with hats and glasses, necklaces, boas, and clothing. It is so festive and you feel alive being one in the crowd.

In San Francisco, the Dutch community celebrated this national pastime in Golden Gate park. They sold Dutch foods like bitterbollen, strropwaafels, satay, and frikendel sausages.


There was Dutch music and a small kids’ free market.

My favorite part was seeing all the orange and hearing the Dutch words and accents.

I missed being in Holland today to celebrate with friends!

Happy King’s Day!


Power of You


Hmm… doesn’t this stop and make you think?  This is the cover of Juliana’s tennis racquet, sitting on the floor of my car and it made me stop and think.

I’ve read the Power of Who – which talks about the importance of who you know, but what about the Power of You?

What power do you have?  LOTS! I’m sure. I think we should focus on our strengths and what we’re good at and what gifts and talents we possess. So much of the self talk we feed ourselves is filled with negativity and a lot of times we connect with others through our miseries. But what if we change the conversation and focus on our mystical super powers?

I was chatting with some girlfriends today and was realizing their strengths out loud, telling them what I admired about them and why they were my mentors. I know, I’m weird, but that’s just who I am and I’m ok with that. Maybe that’s my super power!! 😉

But really, the conversation made me notice what I really liked about my friends, and that the gifts and talents they possessed, were attributes I admire and desire for myself. They are my role models. I see their powers and they are super women, let me tell you!

Here are 3 examples:

The conversation started with Megan – she’s a doctor, has 4 kids, and is absolutely gorgeous, fit, fun, and fabulous!  She’s super organized, loving, beautiful and funny. Everyone wants to be around her and she’s full of life and energy. These are just a few of the Powers of Megan!

Then there was Val. She’s a saint walking on this planet. She has so much patience and a calm nature. She’s the most giving and unselfish person I know. She can carry a conversation and make anyone feel welcome and she’s always interested in what you have to say. She takes care of everyone and volunteers like crazy, expecting nothing in return. These are just a few of Val’s Super Powers!

I could go on and on, and if you want me to tell you what your Super Powers are, just ask! I have Super Vision! 🙂

The last person with Super Powers that we were talking about today was Kris. She has been my role model for 14 years and is someone I’ve admired and learned from and shared so many experiences. She is always positive, helpful, loving, organized and a super volunteer. She is articulate and kind with her words and gives great, warm hugs.  She helped me to find my way when I moved to Sunnyvale and was the Mom Friend with kids a bit older than mine, who has paved the way, showing me what to expect each step along the way. 

Isn’t this fun? Maybe think of someone you love and tell them what their super powers are, and if you’re brave, list 3 of your own. Watch the smiles form. It’s nice to hear and to know what you’re good at, and there are so many good women in this world! Men too, of course… 😉

Three Words

What are your three favorite words?

This morning I read a quote from Justice Sandra Day O’Connor about her secret to happiness. These words were: 

“Work Worth Doing.”

I thought about this all day and think she’s on to something. 

Happiness comes from feeling like we have a sense of purpose. It means that we are choosing to spend our days doing work, whatever work we choose to do. It means we have a feeling of being industrious and giving. Through our work, we are rewarded. Sometimes financially and sometimes emotionally. When we are working, we feel important and validated. This feeling of needing to be industrious is in our blood and starts when we are little. Any two year old will tell you they can do it by themselves.  They have to work. They have to do what they are capable of doing for themselves and they are good role models for the rest of us.

Being lazy does not create happiness. It may provide respite for a short while, but then it turns sour. We must continue to be productive.

How did you work today? Did you feel happy, even though you might feel tired too?

I worked today to organize and host a luncheon for one of my tennis teams. I felt happy when it all came together and was thankful for all the wonderful women that I know. I love women. I love learning from each other and I love how we collaborate. I love that I did the work to be prepared and that the tables looked festive, the food was delicious and that I had a team of women to help me and share the lunch we created.

I worked today to be a chauffeur. I drove all over town between schools and park fields and home.  I am happy that I am able to be a stay at home mom, providing these services for our kids, as my husband goes to an office every day to provide for us too. We are both working and supporting each other and our family and it works for us.

I worked today to be a spectator, supporting Charlie at his game, while freezing outside.  I was happy that I could be there in the stands, doing my “job.”

I worked today at making healthy food choices. This too takes work and is a struggle some days!  I love to eat and savor every bite, and it takes work to control portions and choices. 

Work comes in many different forms, but when we do the work, we usually feel good, although tired too sometimes. I think the point is we must continue to be industrious and being industrious takes many different forms and is different for everyone.  We need to continue to be productive to be happy.

What kind of work creates happiness for you?

MamMam’s Funeral

MamMam’s funeral was today in Colorado and we had to miss it. Jeff flew back from being with his family late Monday night and we would have had to return last night to make it in time.  We decided to give the family time together to grieve and share the memories and to plan a special trip in the next month or so to celebrate her life and share stories together, once things have settled a bit.  Thank you to all who have sent us well wishes and blessings. We appreciate you.

I usually do ok with death and understanding and accepting how life changes and flows, but for some reason, this one is shaking me a bit more than I would have expected. I truly loved the woman that she was and all that she represented. I admired her for all that she was and all that she gave to her family and friends.  I loved that we shared the sisterhood of PEO too, that gave us a common bond.

I contacted her PEO sisters in Colorado after she died, and this was extremely comforting to me. I loved that we shared this connection and that the women there loved her so much. Suzy sent me several emails and told me that she and several other sisters attended the funeral today and sat with PopPop, sharing loving memories of MamMam. By her being there, I felt like I was there too.

I am thankful for family and sisterhood and this beautiful life. Rest in peace, MamMam and bless you PopPop and family as we take the next few steps in this life journey without beautiful Elaine Hughes.


Here is the link to MamMam’s obiturary:



Happy Earth Day!



I love any reason to celebrate life and why not choose today to celebrate our beautiful Earth. Not that I did much, but I did have the opportunity to be present and outside thanks to Charlie.


We have a new, comfy outdoor couch which is so amazing, because we all want to go sit on it everyday, which makes us go outside. I hope the newness doesn’t wear off.

Today Charlie insisted that we go sit outside for awhile when he came home from school. It was just the two of us and this was the last thing I wanted to do. I had a list in my head a mile long of the things I was hoping to accomplish before his baseball game and picking up Juliana and Christian from their events, and getting ready for my meeting tonight, not to mention the dinner I had not yet planned out.

But his little voice saying, “C’mon mama, come outside and sit with me.” I could not resist. My list was now at the bottom of my priority list and I didn’t care.

I went outside because I truly believe in living in the moment and being present and practicing this concept as often as humanly possible even when I really don’t want to. We went outside. I brought my project with me. But of course, I put it down on the table once outside because a certain little someone wanted to sit on my lap and feel the sunshine together.  He wanted my undivided attention and I surrendered. I felt the warmth of the sun shining down on us and loved every minute of it. Soon we were snuggling, playing hide and seek in the shadows from the sun, wrapped up in each other, hiding our faces and trying to see each others’ eyes in the dark. I lifted my arm that was providing the shadows and the sunshine seeped in and showed me his one little eye, his little nose and big lips. I could have stayed there all day. We laughed and played and enjoyed the moment before rushing off again.

And that was the highlight of my day. He helped me to rest and sit still and I helped him to relax and rest too after a long day and before his game. It didn’t last all that long, but it was just enough.  He soon ran in to get dressed for his game, and I lingered a bit longer, enjoying my little slice of heaven in my backyard.


Happy Earth Day! I hope you got outside and enjoyed Mother Nature. xo




Thank you Charlie for helping me to stop and smell the roses today, that I would have otherwise missed. You are my sunshine and I love you.  Congratulations on your two big hits tonight! You’re a hitter now!


Spring Break for Moms


Today was my spring break and I was so relieved and thankful for my still and quiet house. Can you relate?

Everyone went back to school and I got my break from the noise, continuous clutter stream, chaos, constant requests, and conflicts. Thank you to the teachers for taking over again today!

Typically on Monday mornings I exercise right after the kids leave. Today I was so happy that no one was home and I had the house all to myself. I decided to watch a movie first thing in the morning for three reasons. One, I usually fall asleep during movies when it’s night time. Secondly, Pili told me about the Book Thief and that I should watch it because the little girl in it reminded her of Juliana and that it was a good movie. It’s been on my list and I picked it up from Red Box yesterday but fell asleep last night before I could watch it! Finally, I just wanted to relax before working again and I wanted to be in my house and this sounded like pure luxury to me. Of course, I folded all the laundry while watching so it wasn’t completely just quiet time doing nothing, not that there is anything wrong with that. The movie was great by the way, and I highly recommend it.

I love my kids and having them home with me and actually really enjoy their company and personalities, but when we don’t have structure for a week, my job gets a lot more challenging and constant without many breaks. I got a taste of what summer will be like and I think I’m going to start planning some activities and outings right away.

I’m all for unstructured days and going with the flow, but my kids would prefer to sleep in and the. spend 8 hours looking at their electronic devices and I’m looking for a little more stimulation, movement, and learning than that.

I am going to have them help me with the planning, especially on the days we don’t have anything particularly planned.

Today I saw that Marianne’s daughter made a list of the things she was going to accomplish and do on her vacation day in Hawaii. She came up with this plan on her own and I love that she created some structure to help her think about how she was going to spend her time.

I think it was Christine L. who once told me that her dad made her do this during the summer days when she was a little girl, and that it helped to manage expectations. The child came up with the first draft, and the parent could edit it and add their suggestions.

I’m thinking if I have my kids do this, it will provide them with more autonomy, and hopefully I’ll have to direct them a little less and I won’t have to think of all the details every day. Go ahead and steal this one. Don’t you think it’s a great idea?

How do you like to plan your summer break? Do you send your kids to camp? Stay home? Travel? A little bit of all? Hmmm… Just curious.