Do It Anyway

Sometimes you don’t want to do what you need to do, what’s expected of you, or what someone else wants you to do. So what? Do it anyway.

Don’t want to workout? Do it anyway.

Don’t want to stick to your diet? Do it anyway.

Don’t want to read one more bedtime story? Do it anyway.

Don’t want to study anymore? Do it anyway.

Feel tired and don’t want to go to one more kid or social activity? Do it anyway.

As long as you’re not in pain or causing pain or something else that would result in a negative outcome, do the work, suck it up, and do it anyway.

We usually find happiness as an outcome from doing the work, which is usually counterintuitive to what we think. We tend to want to be lazy, or to make excuses, I mean reasons, for why we can’t do something. But if we just apply a little discipline and sacrifice, heck – we’ll probably be a little happier by doing vs. avoiding.

Happy now? I thought so. 🙂

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Work Hard, Play Hard

This was one of my favorite moments today and it happened in a matter of one minute, right before it was time to go to school.

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Jeff had just come in from working out and invited Charlie to come do 20 push ups with him.  I can’t wait to see them continue this workout together over the years as Charlie’s muscles continue to grow stronger and catch up with his dad’s. I wonder how long it will take.

We work hard and play hard and sometimes combine the two. 

Life is good.

 

Struggles are Hard

Everybody struggles. All struggles are hard because we are trying to get through or over something and there is resistance. Resistance is hard. They are never easy, just by definition. They are struggles. And my struggle isn’t harder than your struggle. They all are just hard and that’s ok.

I sometimes appreciate struggles because once they are conquered I feel a sense of accomplishment and growth, but definitely not during the journey; only after I’ve arrived! I’d like to learn how to appreciate the process of being in the struggle, but I’m not quite there yet.

Once we expect struggles to be challenging and know that they take time to conquer, we sometimes feel a little better or at least know how to handle them a bit more easily. We have to be patient and wait, and that’s hard too in our instant gratification culture.

Sometimes the struggle is bigger in our heads than in reality because we get emotionally charged or have fear that makes us just want to freeze and not do anything but wait for the struggle to go away. But we have to do work. We have to communicate and be patient and think and negotiate and come up with a plan to adapt. And when we do, the struggle becomes a little less painful. We can flow and let go.

Struggles can be big or small, with ourselves and/ or with others. Sometimes they are positive as we struggle to learn something new, and sometimes they are negative, as we work through conflict.

When we are struggling, we are trying to move from a state of suffering to a state of compassion. We have to be mindful and we have to wait and work!! We have to hold on to hope and love as we transform and grow. Isn’t it fun? Just kidding. The struggle and transformation usually is a somewhat painful process that is necessary for change and growth. Oh how we wish there was a simple prescription.

There is. It’s called time and patience and work and will and grace. We don’t always have the answers right away, but they usually come with the right mixology and doses.

I wish you peace wherever you are and with whatever struggle you may be working through.

Namaste.

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Consistency

What do you consistently do with consistency? 

I have been thinking about that lately and wondered how consistent we are and how consistency helps to establish habits, rituals, structure and managed expectations.

In some areas of my life I am consistent and in others I am not.

For example, I have been consistently writing this blog for 695 days.  Blogging every night has become a welcome habit and ritual that I enjoy. Sometimes it is challenging as I don’t know what to share, and sometimes I feel like I have too much to say. Some nights I am so tired and fall asleep while I’m writing and am afraid of what I publish!  But at least I’m consistently writing – sometimes good, sometimes so-so, but I’m consistent!  😉

I drink coffee with consistency and love this ritual too. I especially love it when my husband wakes up before me and has the coffee ready before I get out of bed. I love the smell, the sound of the beep telling us the pot is ready, and taking that first sip.

I consistently work out and love that exercise is part of my daily routine. I have a weekly plan that provides structure for my days and gives me things to look forward to doing each week.

I am consistently trying to lose weight, but my practice is inconsistent.   I love to eat and want to lose 10 pounds and these goals are inconsistent. Therefore, I struggle. 

Sometimes when we’re inconsistent, we struggle until we figure out what we really want and value and then do the work to support those goals.  Story of life, right?

I was talking to my 70 year old dental hygienist who lost her husband 6 years ago suddenly when he died at the age of 67 while out for a jog. She said that after you go through something like that, your perspective on life changes and you live more for the moment. That is, until you forget and get busy again.   I loved her analogy and that she had the wisdom to know to live in the moment as much as possible and to take days off from work to play and travel and be with her kids and grandkids. I loved that she knew the importance of life, yet she got stuck too; that life sometimes just happens and you forget until you remember again and start living.  Great sage advice. We’re all perfectly imperfect.  And we should try to be consistent with what we love, but gentle on ourselves when we’re not.

I like that.