sahm | here i am

I was told that my life is boring.

I think that was meant to be a compliment.

By boring, I think she meant that my struggles are less than most others right now, and because of that, my life is boring?!?

Hmm. Maybe.

Probably true.

She wished for my boring life of comfort and stability, where she thinks I only have to worry about what to make for dinner.

She’s partially right, and if this life is boring, I am content.

I like boring. Sometimes.

It makes me a good listener because I am curious about others and prefer to listen to their exciting stories than share my boring ones.

I like the comfort that my boring life presents. I love that I am able to stay home with my kids and I like taking them to the doctor in the middle of the day, without having to cancel work.

I like that I can choose to volunteer on strategic projects and to give back to my community without having standard work hours or expectations.

I like that I get to drive my kids to and from appointments and that they talk to me in the car about real life when they’re not too tired and are captive participants.

I love that I get to choose when to exercise and shop and to do it at off peak hours.

I love that I can socialize in the middle of the day, when my kids are at school and no one needs me.

Boredom and simplicity have a certain excitement about them. I love my boring life. Just the way it IS.

nAMaste.

There was a post today on the Momastery Facebook page that asked friends for help. She was looking for a better and truer title than “stay at home mom” and was hoping for suggestions.

There were over 1,155 comments as of 5 hours ago and 364 people who liked this question.

I have to say that I sat there and pondered the question for awhile and couldn’t really come up with something good. There were several suggestions, and some of them resonated and are ones I’ve used before to describe my role. But when I thought of the work-outside-the-home moms, the titles really reflect both groups.

Some of my favorites were:

ChIef Operating Officer of the [insert family last name] Corporation

Super Woman

Wonder Woman

President of Child Development

Domestic Goddess

Commander In Chief

We’re all moms. We’re all working full time and juggling the needs of those we love, including ourselves. We’re all dedicated to our families. Some of us are paid and some of us are not. Some of us get to choose whether or not to work and some of us don’t. We all love our kids equally, and so I think we should just stick with Mom as our shared title and support our sisters however we choose to spend our days without judgment. Let’s lean in to sisterhood and lift each other up and drop the divisions.

The next time someone asks me what I do, or a form asks me my job occupation, I’m going to say I am: Mom.

Hear me Roar!! 😉

Do you have any suggestions?