Good Night

What is your night time ritual? Do you have one?

I’m looking to shake mine up a bit.

Do you sit on the couch? Eat? Read? Play on your computer? Workout? Shower? Have salty or sweet snacks? Maybe a bowl of cereal? Drink wine or a cocktail? Sleep?? There’s a concept.

Isn’t it funny to think that everyone does it a little differently?  How many people have the same routine most nights? I’m curious.

Tonight I showered at night but usually I shower in the morning. The lighting in the shower was very different at night. I washed my face and moisturized it and it feels so clean and fresh.  I love it and have time to enjoy just being clean and refreshed before rushing off someplace or doing something. I might like this new ritual.

I blow dried my hair and got out most of the moisture before climbing into bed. I hardly ever wash my hair at night, yet Juliana likes to go to bed with wet hair. Opposites. Very interesting.  Hmm…

Typically I like to have a glass of wine with dinner, however I am changing this too. I actually am wide awake and have more energy than I usually do. I like this feeling and actually only miss the ritual of having a shared drink, more than I miss the actual drink.  So curious.

What other things do we do out of habit and not really think about? What happens if we think about what we’re doing and actively choose and decide to shake things up? This is really fun!

Think about your routines and think about changing just one for a night or two and see what you think. You might be pleasantly surprised.

Good Night. Slaap Lekker. Sweet Dreams. Namaste.

Coffee Break?

I’m so happy the kids are back at school. Did you just raise your glass to cheer me?  Thank you! Cheers to you too.

I actually felt really sad when everyone left to go back to school. For a few minutes. Maybe a little more than a few. I felt the loss of their constant presence, but then of course I wanted to jump for joy.  You know, that yin and yang thing again?  I loved them being home. Yet I longed for quiet and structure and less dishes and laundry and my own agenda and not 4 other people with different ideas. I know you get it.

When everyone is home, there is more chaos, and I have more work to do thank usual. It’s just that the work and demands are constant and there doesn’t seem to be a break. At least when everyone goes to school and work, I can clean up and get things in order and they stay that way at least for a couple hours, and it’s quiet and peaceful. I can workout and shower, shop and volunteer and be back again to do pick up and homework help and taxi driver duties.  I like that little respite and long for it, which is why I was happy when everyone went back to their business and I could do mine.

It’s weird to me though, because I think I want us all together and I do, but then I long for a break again. Maybe that’s normal. I don’t want a long break. Just enough to get everything back in order again – to restock the fridge, cook a little with no one walking in the kitchen and interrupting or making their own food, and getting all the clutter back to where it belongs.  

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As I put it into words, I feel a bit neurotic, because I’m a stay at home mom who wants to be home with her family, yet I want them to all go away? That’s weird. I don’t really want them to go away for long, but I already mentioned that. I think you get it.

So once everyone went back, I got back to my normal and that felt really good. I have a routine again and this routine provides structure to my days. I know what to expect and things just kinda flow.  I feel like I can do my job and this gives me purpose and I feel successful, if that makes any sense.

I am thankful for my family and my job and my quiet time and when they all come back into the mix again. I love my people and I wouldn’t change a thing. I love our togetherness, and I now know that I also need some space and I think that’s healthy. We all need a coffee break.

Can you relate?

Life is good.  What provides structure and purpose in your life?

Mondays

How do you feel about Mondays?

Some people probably love them but I think most wish they would be over.

Mondays feel like a catch up day, after the weekend. It’s like a do-over day.

It’s a day to catch up with the laundry and grocery shopping and errands that didn’t get done over the weekend.

It’s typically a day we don’t schedule fun events or nights out because we don’t really need a break just after the weekend.

I like Mondays because it feels like a fresh start to the week and the kids go back to school. Woot!! I am thankful for the structure that school provides.

Typically I like to go grocery shopping and to cook on Mondays. I like to catch up with laundry, declutter and to work out too. And usually by the end of all this, it’s time to pick up the kids and Monday’s are almost over.

What does your Monday look like?

Do you like Mondays? I do like them, especially since they are less scheduled than the other days of the week – and it feels like a fresh start.

Hope you had a good Monday!!

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Is Summer Over Yet?

I love summer. It’s my favorite season.

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I love the unstructured nature of it with flexibility and togetherness and ice cream and water play until I don’t anymore and I long for the next season to bring back a breath of fresh air and structure again and some alone time for ME!! Have I told you that I haven’t worked out hardly at all this summer? Maybe that’s why I feel cranky and fat!

I never look forward to the fall and the early morning alarm clock and demands for lunches to be made and forms to be filled out and homework to be completed. I don’t miss that part at all.

I do look forward to having an expected routine again and to have the kids separated in different schools and not bickering with one another or trying to get out of chores or manipulating a way and finding or begging for a reason to have more screen time.

I’m done. I’m baked.

I’m ready and thankful for all the teachers that care for and teach my babies every week day and give me a break. I love you!! And I love my kids and our wonderful life journey we’re sharing…I’m just ready for them and I to go out and learn by ourselves and to come back and share our experiences maybe over dinner and maybe not all the hours in between if you know what I mean.

School starts in less than two weeks, but who’s counting? Are you ready too?

xoxoxo Adriana

Girls Night Out

Having routines helps us to know what to expect and provides order for our daily lives.

But it’s always nice to have a break too.

Tonight I snuck away from homework, dinner, dishes and snuggles to travel over the hill to the beach to hang out with girlfriends.

It’s so important for women to have time together. There’s something so wonderful about girlfriends gathering and laughing and sharing, cooking, eating and drinking and playing together.

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Life is good!

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Coffee

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What do you look forward to each day? Do you have a routine that makes you happy?

One of my favorite rituals is drinking coffee with Jeff. It’s not just the act of drinking coffee. It goes much deeper than that. I start anticipating the morning cup of Joe the night before. At the end of the day, as I reflect on all that has happened and begin to think and plan for the next day, the thought of coffee together first thing when we wake up makes me happy.

Some nights we grind the beans the night before and set the auto timer on the coffee machine before we go to bed. This way we wake up to the smell of the aroma.

Most mornings Jeff will get out of bed first to make me coffee. I’ll stay where it’s warm and check my phone while the coffee brews. It’s like a little present that I know is coming and I’m excited every time it arrives.

It’s the little things, I swear.

Making me coffee is one way we connect before the show begins. Isn’t everyday a performance? For this little daily moment, shared ritual and token of love, I am thankful.

Oh, I can’t wait for our coffee tomorrow morning! What are you looking forward to doing?