Sticky Resolution?

Did you make a New Year’s Resolution or two or choose One Word to focus your life?  If so, it’s been 2 weeks and a day since the turn of the year and I was curious how you’re doing so far.

Here are a few things that help us keep our resolve, thanks to Karen and her wonderful program this week about this topic:

1. Make them actionable.  It’s great to have a big goal and then break it down into the “how to” parts to make it actually work.

2. Set up reminders in your calendar so that you practice the things that are important to you.

3. Find supportive friends and hang out with them and share stories related to your goals.

4. Read about the topics you are interested in and become knowledgable.

5. Immerse yourself.  Make sure you’re choosing to change for you and not for someone else. Dive in.

6. Write down your thoughts and resolutions. Seeing them in writing makes them real and more sticky.

7. Spend money to achieve your goal.  It feels like you’re paying for your success when you put money out.

8. Does your resolution make you happy? Do the work it takes if it does.

9.  What steps do you need to take to meet your goal? Are you setting up an action plan that is doable?

10.  What’s your path to success?

11. Focus on the process and not just the end goal. Start over again and again even if you mess up.

12. Know how to handle pitfalls and distractions. Have an action plan for recovery.

13. Be gentle with yourself.

14. Be specific.

15. Plan.

16. Want it.

17. Commit to it.

18. Take action.

19. Reevaluate.

20. If you fall, get back on track.

21. Enjoy the journey.

My resolutions were to stop swearing and to accept people as they are without judgment.  I’ve cleaned my potty mouth probably by 50% or more and it feels really good. When I slip up, it feels really weird and I don’t like it. It makes me want to start over and try again, so that’s working for me.

As for the accepting people where they are at, this is awesome. I’ve changed the way I react to changes and unexpected surprises and this is so liberating. I love this feeling and it makes me happy so I will continue practicing this.

And finally for my one word, togetherness, I’m loving this choice. I’ve written it down on our kitchen chalkboard and I think about it every time I walk by.

I notice the moments of togetherness and feel fulfilled.

I am enjoying this new year’s journey and hope you are too, wherever you are and with whatever you’re choosing to be.


New Year’s Resolutions

Are you starting to think about what you’d like to do or change in the new year?

Do you have any new goals or ambitions?

I’ve begun to think about these and have a couple ideas.

I’m wondering if I write them out loud, if it’ll help make them stickier.

I have two right now.

My first one is to clean out my mouth. I have a potty mouth and it would probably be good for me to give it a good sweep. I don’t know why I like to swear, but it isn’t pretty. On one level, it feels like a big release to me. When I swear, I think it let’s the frustration out. But then I feel badly for saying bad words and being a bad example. So I’m going to try being more polite this year.

My second goal is to meet people where they are at. I tend to have high expectations of my friends and loved ones. I get disappointed easily and sometimes only see my point of view and struggle to understand why others act the way they do when I think their behavior is different than what I expect. This is dumb! I want to be able to accept whatever people have to offer and not judge. I want to see things from their perspective and be more open and accepting of what is so that I can enjoy their gifts and time shared with me instead of wondering why they don’t do what I want them to do. I’ve begun practicing this one and I love the results so far. Being accepting and not judging is awesome for everyone and creates stronger connections. I love this.

So what about you? Wanna share what you’re thinking about for next year?

Happy New Year in two more weeks!!