Togetherness

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I went on a beautiful, crisp hike together with my friends this morning. This made me incredibly happy. Thank you S for inviting me to join you and your honey! I love spontenaity, hanging out with you and hiking. You made my day!

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We didn’t have a vacation plan today and decided we would all just hang out and enjoy being home with “nothing” to do. I never do nothing, and always find something yet I prefer to have a plan so I don’t get busy just cleaning and cooking. I’m sure moms can relate. My not having a plan created space for togetherness to happen organically. This is a beautiful thing, although I struggled getting to accept this non-plan plan! Maybe this is the silver lining from flowing and letting go? Hmmm…

I checked in with two friends to see if they wanted to meet for coffee sometime this afternoon. One was available and it was so pretty outside that I decided to take the bakfiets out for a spin again. Juliana decided she would go with me and ride in the basket part, even though this would be embarrassing. I was just happy she wanted to go with me. We laughed and chatted the entire way and enjoyed the cool breeze and sunshine on our face, together.

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We visited for about an hour, enjoying conversation, a latte, and catching up together with our friends, before riding back home again before the sun set.

This is what happiness looks like to me: sharing time with loved ones doing what we love. Life doesn’t get much better than this.

I am grateful.

The only “real” plan we had today was to celebrate my friend’s 40th birthday party. I’ve been looking forward to this for a long time. Jeff and I left our house a bit early to have a little time alone together before the event. We had the best guacamole and homemade salsas and enjoyed our time, just sharing stories without interruptions.

From the restaurant, we walked to the next place for the celebration. I loved seeing my friend so happy and visiting with our mutual friends. My sweet childhood friend was there and I’m always happy to see her and catch up. Another friend brought her brand new baby and let me hold her and get my baby fix. I just love babies and was so happy she shared her little angel with me.

I am content. I think this togetherness word for the new year is good for me so far. Have you picked a word for yourself?

Together, let’s go.

Namaste.

One Word

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If you were to pick one word to represent your hopes and desires for this new year, what would you pick?

Last year my theme was “let go” which is actually two words, but I came back to these ALL the time. Whenever I lost my focus, I would remind myself to let go and adapt and to accept what was presenting itself to me. I practiced letting go of expectations that stood in the way of my ability to feel joy. By letting go, I freed myself to be ok with what was and not what I was hoping for if that makes any sense. By letting go, I let other people be too. It allowed me to release judgement which was strange and liberating at the same time. Of course, I wasn’t always good at this process, but when I was, it worked to create happiness not only for myself but also for the person who was “disappointing” me.

For example, I let go of the expectation that my husband would be home at a given time. I let go of the need to receive acknowledgement from texts right away and didn’t feel like the other person was ignoring me. I was patient and let go of the imaginary expected time they had to respond. This is liberating! When friends had to change plans at the last minute, I let them do what they needed to do without expressing any regret and made other plans. I think the ability to let go and adapt are critical skills to enabling our happiness.

The year before my word was “flow.” I wanted to learn to flow with whatever came my way and to be less controlling. This worked wonders for creating inner peace. I share these ideas in case they might ignite a spark in you too.

This year I’ve chosen my word to be “togetherness.” I want to be present and enjoy my time with my family and close friends, and put my phone down more often than not.

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My challenge is finding the experiences that all 5 of us might be interested in sharing at the same time, which gets more challenging as everyone gets busier. I also want to be more flexible and organic in allowing life to flow and to live in the moment without having to “do” anything, if that makes any sense.

Some of the things we like to do as a family include: driving, going to the beach, barbecuing, traveling, seeing new places, going out to eat, visiting friends, cooking together, tailgating and watching sporting events, entertaining, watching tv, playing on our phones and sharing stories, taking pictures, and hanging out with each other, friends, and family.

What is your word or two that summarizes some of your goals this coming year?

Happy New Year 2015!
Xo