Togetherness

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I went on a beautiful, crisp hike together with my friends this morning. This made me incredibly happy. Thank you S for inviting me to join you and your honey! I love spontenaity, hanging out with you and hiking. You made my day!

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We didn’t have a vacation plan today and decided we would all just hang out and enjoy being home with “nothing” to do. I never do nothing, and always find something yet I prefer to have a plan so I don’t get busy just cleaning and cooking. I’m sure moms can relate. My not having a plan created space for togetherness to happen organically. This is a beautiful thing, although I struggled getting to accept this non-plan plan! Maybe this is the silver lining from flowing and letting go? Hmmm…

I checked in with two friends to see if they wanted to meet for coffee sometime this afternoon. One was available and it was so pretty outside that I decided to take the bakfiets out for a spin again. Juliana decided she would go with me and ride in the basket part, even though this would be embarrassing. I was just happy she wanted to go with me. We laughed and chatted the entire way and enjoyed the cool breeze and sunshine on our face, together.

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We visited for about an hour, enjoying conversation, a latte, and catching up together with our friends, before riding back home again before the sun set.

This is what happiness looks like to me: sharing time with loved ones doing what we love. Life doesn’t get much better than this.

I am grateful.

The only “real” plan we had today was to celebrate my friend’s 40th birthday party. I’ve been looking forward to this for a long time. Jeff and I left our house a bit early to have a little time alone together before the event. We had the best guacamole and homemade salsas and enjoyed our time, just sharing stories without interruptions.

From the restaurant, we walked to the next place for the celebration. I loved seeing my friend so happy and visiting with our mutual friends. My sweet childhood friend was there and I’m always happy to see her and catch up. Another friend brought her brand new baby and let me hold her and get my baby fix. I just love babies and was so happy she shared her little angel with me.

I am content. I think this togetherness word for the new year is good for me so far. Have you picked a word for yourself?

Together, let’s go.

Namaste.

Goals and Intentions

Today I was listening to some tips from the top from Stella & Dot leaders. I still have my business for another month or two, although I have chosen to go out of business soon, as selling jewelry at home trunk shows is not for me. Learning what you don’t want or like to do is also important as knowing what you do want or like to do.  Sometimes making a choice to change is challenging because there are benefits to continuing what you’re doing even though letting go might create more space and opportunities to try new things.  Can you tell this was a tough decision for me?

Anyway, back to the tips from the top.   I was listening to a Stylist share her success story and how she became a leader in the company.  One of the things she mentioned was being clear about her goals. She wrote down her goals on several pieces of paper and had them everywhere so she could see them all the time. One list hung in her work space and another on her bathroom mirror. She carried one around with her and was always seeing her list. When she wrote her goals down, she wrote them as if she was already there.

For example, if I want to lose weight, which I think I do, but haven’t 100% committed to, instead of writing my goal as, “I want to lose weight.” I would write down my intention as if I was already there. It would look like this, “I am 125 pounds.”  This goal is unrealistic for me personally, but you get the point. She stated where she wanted to be and then worked towards that and all her actions were in line with how she was going to achieve that goal.

So I practiced that today, by setting an intention which I’m not 100% sure is my real intention, but I thought I’d pretend and play with it, outside my comfort zone to see what would happen.

I decided my goal is to become a better tennis player. Currently my level is a 3.0, which should be moving up to a 3.5 by the end of the year. So being a 3.5 is realistic, but being a 4.0 is a stretch, so my goal for myself was, “I am a 4.0 tennis player.”

Just saying that in my head was uncomfortable because I didn’t believe it. But I wanted to practice thinking about it and what that might feel like. When I got out to the tennis court, instead of telling myself I sucked or messed up, I told myself I was a 4.0 and I could and should hit harder. Guess what? I did hit much better than normal. I felt more powerful and more accurate and I played 100% better than my match on Sunday.

I learned or was aware again of the power of my mind in this simple exercise. I tend to forget and get lazy and just busy doing, that I don’t always stop to think if what I’m doing is what I want to be doing because I don’t have clear intentions and just let the busyness fill the space. When I do have a set intention or goal in mind, I feel accomplished and successful and I want to find a way to remember this so I don’t keep forgetting and can be more efficient.

I am setting goals (tomorrow).  🙂

I am a procrastinator!!

So tell me what you want, what you really, really want!  And go make it happen.  xo