Perks


I have a great, life partner who I am so thankful for. Today he worked from home as his new office is being transformed. I was working on my computer too, and I loved that he was nearby. When we first met, we used to work together for several years. I loved the time we spent sharing stories, coffee breaks, lunch hours, happy hours with colleagues, commuting together and working out together. These shared times were many of the perks of my working years.

So today, when we worked from home together, and he asked me if I wanted a coffee in the middle of the afternoon, he made me smile and made me think back to the days when we first dated. The coffee was great. The memories, even better.

Thanks for the coffee, babe! You made my day. I love you.

What are some of the perks of your daily life?

1989

This was the year Taylor Swift was born and this was the name of her concert tour that we saw tonight at Levi Stadium.  It was an amazing and entertaining show that she performed in front of a sold out crowd of 50,000.

 

I love how authentic Taylor seems. She expressed her gratitude to her fans and for the experience of being with us tonight and worked hard the entire time to entertain us. 

I liked the montages she had with her girlfriends, who shared their feelings about Taylor and life and love.  I loved that she brought on a new girl band from the UK and highlighted how great they are and sang along with them. She is not threatened by other strong women and I love this about her.  She also brought on stage her surprise guests, Julia Roberts and Joan Baez, as she sang about never going out of style. 

 

The best little tidbit she shared with us was to embrace our imperfect life and to know what makes us happy. 

I know Juliana and I and ML and J are very happy for having shared this experience on a warm and comfortable night at Levi Stadium. Thank you Taylor Swift for sharing your gifts and talents with all of us tonight and for being passionate about what you do. Your light shined!!
  

 

Life is fun and good!

Free to BE You and Me

 It’s Memorial Day and I am married to a veteran.  We take the time to reflect and remember that our freedom to BE is a gift from those families who chose to sacrifice and give of themselves and we are grateful. 

Today we celebrated with veterans in Santa Clara and smiled at Denny and his wife Marilynne who shared stories with us as we admired their courage and history in serving our country.  I loved this moment and loved their hugs and kisses. There was an instant connection through our gratitude and recognition of their service and I was touched by our spontaneous interaction.  I wanted to hear more of their story. Denny teased me and handed me his biography. He was decorated with several honorable medals, including a Purple Heart and a Navy Cross. He was a true gentleman and I admired his pride and character.

   
     

We are thankful for our veterans and their families, especially PopPop and MamMam, Algin Hughes and Elaine Hughes.

Life is good and we thank you, veterans. xoxo

Teacher Appreciation Week

This week is teacher appreciation week at our school and I’m sure for others across the nation.

I was up early preparing a main dish to share at the luncheon, while Charlie was up early writing a hand written thank you card. He proudly brought the first round of gifts to class today.

BJ lead the teacher appreciation luncheon and decorated the staff room with a beautiful island oasis theme. I love seeing how all the families bring food to feed the teachers at this type of event. There is a mutual reciprocity of gratitude between the parents and the teachers and back again. I think the volunteers have just as much fun as the teachers.

I ran into Charlie’s teacher there today. She had a big smile on her face and thanked us for the lunch and also told me how much she enjoyed having Charlie in her class. She said she really enjoyed his gift and the letter that he wrote and noticed that he’s been trying really hard to do his personal best. I loved hearing this feedback from her and was thankful for these few moments together in the lunch room.

This was my last teacher appreciation luncheon at our elementary school as Charlie is promoting in June to middle school. It’s hard for me to believe that all three of my kids will have completed elementary school at the same place, despite the year abroad. Charlie has been going around the house singing the shooting star song that they sing at graduation that I’ve heard once or twice before and I know the end is near.

Today was a good day and it put me in a happy mood to be sharing time with my friends and volunteers and past teachers, grateful for the years together in our little community.

Thank you to all who choose to teach and to all the volunteers making our lives great. I hope you feel appreciated and loved!

nAMaste

Cabo Yoga

This is what it looks like living it up in Cabo with my BFFs, in the sun, doing yoga and loving life.   

My smile says it all.

 

Isn’t she amazing?  It is such a joy to watch her practice and to be with her and all the other awesome women. 

I am so grateful to have been invited on this trip and am thankful that my mama came to look after everyone while I am away.  

I am lucky. 

Thank you thank you thank you!

nAMaste 

Being Vulnerable

“Through my research, I found that vulnerability is the glue that holds relationships together. It’s the magic sauce. ” – Brene Brown

I’m vulnerable. Today and most days. Aren’t we all? Today,  I’m especially aware of my vulnerability because I am still in pain and actually needed help. I needed help with having Tiger Balm rubbed into my back, shoulder and neck muscles.  I needed help at the grocery store and got help with kid pickup and kitchen cleanup and filling the rice containers.  I don’t like to be needy. I like to be the one giving help. I was still able to do some things, but at 50% the level and speed as usual. This made me incredibly vulnerable, a bit uncomfortable and a lot thankful.

As I slowed down, my family picked up the pace. I loved that they were helping me and looking at me with love and concern in their eyes. They are not used to me like this and I’m not comfortable just sitting. I’m not dying and I’m not trying to exaggerate, I’m just dealing with and waiting for the pain to pass. It definitely has a hold on me and I am not sure how long the wait will be. I’m getting lots of kisses and hugs and offers for help and I’m just trying to breathe and be patient. Thank you family and thank you friends for your ideas and advice.

While I wait, I will be thankful that I have people that love me and take care of me too and for this vulnerability space. Maybe this is part of my togetherness vision for the year,  just in a different form than I expected.

Life is good, even with a pulled muscle.

Head in the Clouds

Today I’m thankful that I still have a kid who likes to play in the park.  Because of him, I sat outside on a bench before the sun set and enjoyed watching the clouds go by.

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Sounds silly, but I enjoyed this moment and was thankful that we were there.

I loved watching him run around and climb up the play structures and jump off the slide with his friend.  They were carefree, just playing and running and chasing each other. Luckily I looked up from my phone and magazine to catch these moments before it was time to go.

I’m trying to slow down and do less and today was just the right balance.

I got to clean my house, play tennis and volunteer all before my kids came home. Once they came home, I actually enjoyed driving them to their appointments and making dinner with Jeff and sitting down to a family taco dinner and discussion over candle light.

As I slow down and do less, my kids are wanting to play more. I find this intriguing. Because they see me sitting, they want to come and sit on top of me and want all of my attention. I’ve been fighting this and then wonder why I’m fighting it.  I think by the end of the day I’m tired and am mentally worn out. It’s not that I don’t want to play with them, but I feel like I’m a dog and they’re little kids getting up in my face and I just want to snap.  How wrong is that? I know it and realize it and fought against it and then gave in.  Instead of biting them, I laughed and played and kissed their faces all over the place, so thankful that they wanted to be a part of me and celebrated our togetherness. I’m letting go of my expectation to sit quietly at the end of the day so that I can continue to enjoy the gifts they bring to my life.  I am thankful and tired.  Thank you to all the mamas who remind me to enjoy these moments because they go by so fast. I appreciate your wisdom.

And with that, I wish you a good night.  May all dreams come true.

xo

Here I Am

Here I Am.

This blog is about Being.  It is about being mindful and present and searching for the lessons, and gleaning the knowledge that is presented and sharing it in a way that is meaningful and hopefully repeatable.

It’s about experiencing life as it happens and capturing it’s essence, every day, never knowing what I will write about until the end, when the credits roll and I can sit back and reflect on what gifts were received.

It’s a great gift, actually. One for myself and one that I choose to share with you, hoping that you’ll take a moment too, to reflect on your own day, your own choices, your own results and find and label the good despite the chaos and struggles that we are presented. I hope that my life story might provide inspiration and ideas because I think we learn from each other and copy what we like in others. I hope you find something you like when you spend your time reading with me.  Thank you for sharing this journey together.

I know that writing has changed my life. I just wonder if it’s the mindfulness and gratitude and taking time to reflect every day that actually has changed my life for the better, because I am focused on the positive aspects of life. Every day I take time to reflect on what went well and to try to see what I might do differently next time if things didn’t go as planned.  This has taught me to accept what is and to try to adapt quickly and to be ok with what comes my way every day. It’s a practice, and I am not always successful, but this plan seems to be working for me.  I wish this for everyone.

I am thankful for this life we have been given.

Live it up. Love it out. Laugh out loud.

Namaste.

Chicks that Fix

Wouldn’t this make a great name for a company?

“Hello. Chicks that Fix. How can I help you?”

Last week I had a small gathering of women to my house for a little bit of Christmas cheer. As I was getting ready, I noticed some water on the toilet tank. I wiped it away and it soon came back. I mentioned this to my friends, and Susanne said she knew how to fix toilets and would check it out later.  Before she left the party, she came out to tell me that my toilet tower was broken and that she was heading out to get the part and to run an errand and would be back to fix it within a couple hours.  She said she could just fix it for me or I could watch and learn and help her. I love learning by doing and was excited for her to return.

I loved that she knew how to fix a toilet and thought that was so hot. This week she installed a new faucet in her own bathroom and fixed another toilet. She has cool hobbies and inspires me.

Another friend had mentioned that she took the time to help someone jumpstart their car. She was afraid she wouldn’t have enough time to be helpful, and learned that it actually was very easy and didn’t take long at all. Afterwards, she felt good for helping someone and doing a good deed.

Marilynne laid her own slate front walkway and did her own irrigation system in her backyard. How cool is that? I would never even know where to begin. But I’ve never really been curious about learning or doing this type of work, so maybe that’s the reason I’ve never tried. Watching her and hearing her stories were intriguing though. I wonder how she learned and got her confidence.

Today I was at the gym and was thinking of all the things I had to get done today. As I walked to my car, I heard the car next to me trying to start and it didn’t sound good at all. I wished I hadn’t heard it, but I did. I got in my car, unrolled the window and asked the guy if he had AAA. He said he did, but wasn’t sure how long they would take as it was raining and we had the huge storm of the year yesterday. I asked him if he wanted help and he asked if I had jumper cables. I said I did, and would be happy to help him.

I got out of the car, and began to attach the jumper cables to my car as he attached his end to his. I realized my car was too far away so I removed my ends and moved my car closer to his and then reattached the cables and jumped his car in probably less than 7 minutes. He was really thankful that he didn’t have to wait for help and I felt good that I wasn’t nervous and was able to help him without fear. This was a new thing for me and it made me smile.

Chicks that Fix. I’m inspired and want to learn how to do more. What do you know how to fix? I can fix dinner. I can fix a toilet. I can fix a car’s battery. I fixed the light on the washing machine recently. That was cool. I’m sure I have a lot to learn and am inspired now. What do you want to learn how to do?

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