Love and Light – A Hostess Gift

Love and light are two of my favorite things and I found a way to share them with friends. 
This year I’ve been making these beautiful jars filled with light, and giving them as thank you gifts to the friends who invite us to celebrate the holidays together. 

I love turning on the light and bringing the lit jar into their homes as we greet each other, sharing love and light.

If you’re interested in making them too, I purchased 8oz mason jars, short strands of firefly LED lights on Amazon, ribbon, tags and bows and tape. I taped the battery pack to the inside part of the lid and just twisted the light strand to fit inside the jar, and turned on the switch before closing the lid, tying on a tag and sticking on a bow. So simple, right?

Wishing you love and light.

nAMaste

My Favorite Gifts – Giving, Receiving and Connecting

I like this cycle.

One gives.

One receives.

One thanks.

One smiles.

Repeat. Remember.

I love the feel good moments. Can you tell?

My mom and I love to go to garage sales for several reasons. One week she was visiting and we stopped by a friendly sale and I recognized a friend I had met years ago, briefly, and we reconnected. I love meeting people out and about our community. She used to be a kindergarten teacher and she was clearing out some of her book collection.

It was serendipity as my sister just began her teaching career and is a kindergarten teacher and could use nearly new supplies for her classroom. Mom and I looked through all the covers and my friend helped us pick out some of her favorites and we filled a crate to give to my sister, all for $10.  One new book would cost $10 and I was so happy to have a nice collection to share with her students. My friend was happy to nearly give away her books to a good cause and to support a teacher sister. And my sister was so excited to receive these gifts.

Today I received a thank you poster in the mail signed and decorated by her kindergarten class and it touched my heart. 

  
Saying thank you is powerful and brings us full circle to the giving and receiving and thanking cycle that creates joy and happiness for all involved.

We can make a positive change in this world by participating – by giving, by receiving, by thanking and enjoying one another and our gifts and our time.

ONE LOVE.

Thank you my friend for giving us your books.

Thank you my mama for buying and bringing the books home with you and delivering them to my sister.

Thank you, my sister, for being a good role model and teaching your students the powerful process of giving and sharing thanks.

Life is good!!

xo

 

Nesting

Something is seriously wrong with me.

I went back to work and I’m now trying to merge my stay at home mom lifestyle and expectations with my new part-time, working mom time commitments. Wednesdays are my “day off” and feel like my Sunday, like my day to catch up and to exercise and see friends and make appointments and to run errands and to supposedly cook like a wild woman!

Yesterday, I had to leave the house early and was gone and in and out all day and night. I had no time to cook and this bothered me. I like to have food readily available for my family when they come home. They’re all busy too, and providing food feels like I’m providing comfort and energy so that everyone survives. So dramatic, I know. But seriously. They can cook on their own and make their own food, but I still want to do it and feel like I’m doing my job. I want to take care of them this way and show them my love this way. I love that they enjoy my cooking and I feel connected to them through food. So when I literally couldn’t fit in the cooking time any time during the day yesterday, I felt like a failure. Not really, but really I’m feeling dramatic today, so let’s just go with an F- in the food department.

So today I made up for it because I had time.  I also had pounds of chicken and beef and veggies that I had planned to use yesterday, so I got busy. I had leftovers to repurpose and new recipes to try and a dish that Juliana asked me to make, plus 2 dishes I wanted to recreate from the Indonesian restaurant we visited this past weekend. I had big dreams to fill today and I made 6 different things, plus washed all the dishes and put them away. All in a day and now I feel happy with my full fridge.

In case you’re curious about what I made, I made a spicy Indonesian beef rendang, Indonesian sayur lodeh, gluten free/light/baked coconut chicken, some sort of mediterranean chicken and cauliflower in a tomato and onion sauce, chicken marsala, and Julie’s spaghetti pizza bake recipe. Oh, and Thai jasmine rice to soak up all the sauces.

So no one should go hungry for the rest of the week. Phew. I feel so much better now with food in the nest, ready to feed my flock.

How do you nest?

nAMaste BeLoveRs

Chicks that Fix

Wouldn’t this make a great name for a company?

“Hello. Chicks that Fix. How can I help you?”

Last week I had a small gathering of women to my house for a little bit of Christmas cheer. As I was getting ready, I noticed some water on the toilet tank. I wiped it away and it soon came back. I mentioned this to my friends, and Susanne said she knew how to fix toilets and would check it out later.  Before she left the party, she came out to tell me that my toilet tower was broken and that she was heading out to get the part and to run an errand and would be back to fix it within a couple hours.  She said she could just fix it for me or I could watch and learn and help her. I love learning by doing and was excited for her to return.

I loved that she knew how to fix a toilet and thought that was so hot. This week she installed a new faucet in her own bathroom and fixed another toilet. She has cool hobbies and inspires me.

Another friend had mentioned that she took the time to help someone jumpstart their car. She was afraid she wouldn’t have enough time to be helpful, and learned that it actually was very easy and didn’t take long at all. Afterwards, she felt good for helping someone and doing a good deed.

Marilynne laid her own slate front walkway and did her own irrigation system in her backyard. How cool is that? I would never even know where to begin. But I’ve never really been curious about learning or doing this type of work, so maybe that’s the reason I’ve never tried. Watching her and hearing her stories were intriguing though. I wonder how she learned and got her confidence.

Today I was at the gym and was thinking of all the things I had to get done today. As I walked to my car, I heard the car next to me trying to start and it didn’t sound good at all. I wished I hadn’t heard it, but I did. I got in my car, unrolled the window and asked the guy if he had AAA. He said he did, but wasn’t sure how long they would take as it was raining and we had the huge storm of the year yesterday. I asked him if he wanted help and he asked if I had jumper cables. I said I did, and would be happy to help him.

I got out of the car, and began to attach the jumper cables to my car as he attached his end to his. I realized my car was too far away so I removed my ends and moved my car closer to his and then reattached the cables and jumped his car in probably less than 7 minutes. He was really thankful that he didn’t have to wait for help and I felt good that I wasn’t nervous and was able to help him without fear. This was a new thing for me and it made me smile.

Chicks that Fix. I’m inspired and want to learn how to do more. What do you know how to fix? I can fix dinner. I can fix a toilet. I can fix a car’s battery. I fixed the light on the washing machine recently. That was cool. I’m sure I have a lot to learn and am inspired now. What do you want to learn how to do?

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Love is Louder – The ALS Ice Bucket Challenge Success

If you want to see love in action, just take a look at the ALS Ice Bucket Challenge.


We, as a community, are speaking up. We are accepting a challenge to connect, to raise awareness, to be giving, and loving and supportive and playful, and grateful.  We are creating compassion and we are doing something good that feels good and right, and not just for ourselves or our families or necessarily something close to home.  We are helping others and that helps heal us and creates happiness despite the pain and suffering that exists in its many forms. And ALS is just one of them.

Love wins.

There will be haters and nay-sayers, but when we are loving and authentic and share from our hearts, love and goodness wins.

ALS Awareness is also winning through our social media online campaign.  Just look at the numbers… over $42 million dollars has been raised in a month by thousands of new contributors.  That is CRAZY good.  I hope this sparks giving all over the place.

We as a society are winning by communicating and connecting and bridging the gaps between our humanity, across religious and political and financial and age differences, one at a time in our own little way.  Woohoo!!

It is amazing to be part of this wonderful movement, and not just for the awareness that our participation and sharing is bringing to ALS, but also to the connection and compassion and kindness we are sharing with one another.

What if we can learn from this successful social media online campaign and apply the lessons to other causes?

What has made this so successful?

Here are my takeaways, in no particular order:

1.  It started with a SPARK.  Pete Frates, a patient with a need, had an idea. He dared someone to take a fun, goofy challenge to create awareness and to raise money and gave them a specific time period to respond, within 24 hours, and asked them to spread the love by challenging friends, creating a personal connection.  He created an inferno!

2. A DARE.  When we are dared to do something, it’s like challenging us to step up. In this case, it was a fun dare that is possible and easy to do, and most everyone can participate without getting hurt (if you’re careful!! – of course there have been injuries)

3. A quick turn around TIME, within 24 hours. The challenge was action oriented, dump ice water on your head and/or donate to the cause within 24 hours. People can’t put it off to do later.

4. Social Media – we have the means to connect quickly via Facebook and Twitter and Email, etc.  People want to be part of something fun and good and it’s catchy. Sharing is caring.  We are connecting communities and feel like we can do something to create change by participating. We can be seen and we can be creative and we like those things.

5. It’s FUN.  It’s fun to be play and be silly and with all our busyness, it’s great to stop in a 24 hour period because we “have to” and to just be goofy.  We are given a pass to play because we accepted a dare.  It’s fun because of the anticipation of ice cold water being thrown on our head and waiting for the cold to chill and shock us and make us laugh and make those around us laugh. It’s like that carnival dunk tank game that makes us laugh every time the ball hits the target and the volunteer falls in the water. We laugh at this. We love the anticipation and clean, safe, fun that surrounds us and we want to play, participate and watch.

6. It’s POSITIVE and we can all connect and share and create community across communities. There is a lot of negative news and we’re tired as a nation of all the terrorism and racism and any other -ism. We need to laugh. We need to connect. We need to share some love and laughter, as a nation and across nations. We’re hurting as a society and we need to love one another. LOVE doesn’t see age, sex, fat, politics, religion, etc.

7. Happiness comes from GIVING. We give each other a challenge. We give each other a laugh. We give a little bit of money to help others. We give ourselves hope. We give each other some lovin’ and that’s a good thing.  Giving is a secret to creating happiness, not just for the receivers but also for the givers.

8.  It’s ENTERTAINMENT.  We use humor to lighten the stress. We use humor to connect with one another. And watching people dump ice cold water on each other or themselves is funny. We can laugh and connect with one another in this simple way, through a smile and a laugh.  And most everyone can participate in this challenge – young and old.  And we’re using humor to create awareness, love and compassion.  And we’re playing first, learning second, and giving third. Play is important.

9. It’s SIMPLE.  It’s easy to do and it’s engaging and quick. We maybe spent 20 minutes between finding a bucket and filling it with ice and water, rehearsing for a minute and recording the challenge. And then going online afterwards to http://www.als.org to donate.  It was fun, easy, quick and simple to do with my kids.  As a family, we played first, watched a video second and learned about what ALS is really about, and then donated money next.  The dare/challenge from a friend is what got us involved and interested in participating and we didn’t want to miss the 24 hour deadline.

10. The intention is AUTHENTIC and by participating and sharing, we make it PERSONAL. We thrive for authenticity and for what is real. This is a real need. There are real people dying and suffering with no cure.  ALS is a horrible, terrible disease that affects the patient and his/her family and community. And we all know someone that knows someone that is afflicted by this and we can feel empathy by sharing in the pain and feel like we can make a small difference.

I hope what this challenge does is helps to raise enough money and awareness so that a cure can be found for ALS and the conversation continues and those affected feel the love and compassion from all of us. I also hope that we continue to engage with one another, play with each other, focus on the positive, and continue to think of others and give money and time to those causes that need our attention, as often as possible.

We can make a difference. We can be the change we want to see in the world.  I dare you to take the challenge and play along and donate to www.als.org and to any other group or organization that needs some lovin’.  I dare ya!  xoxo

Namaste

Let It Go

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What are you holding on to that you need to let go to create space? Is it physical or mental?

Letting go isn’t always easy. It’s just something that we choose to do when we are ready, and usually sooner is better because we are set free to start again or start something new.

But usually letting go takes work, again either physically and/or mentally, and lots of times, negative feelings such as fear, sadness, loneliness, etc., are part of letting go, which is why we probably procrastinate and put it off.

Today we let go of our family swing set. This made me sad for a few reasons. Mainly it marks the passing of time and I’m fully aware the kids are growing up.

I woke the kids up to go play on it one more time this morning, before the guys began taking it apart.

The funny thing is that I’ve raised the kids to be comfortable with letting go of stuff and they were completely fine with it. I was the sad one.

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Mark said we could come sit on it again in his yard and was so thankful that his little kids would get to enjoy it.

This is the best part of giving things to your friends – the things you love get to be enjoyed by your friends and you get a chance to see them enjoying what you once enjoyed or get invited to play.

So with the sadness comes joy: the joy of giving and seeing others happy; the joy of creating space and dreaming of new teen fun for the backyard – got any ideas? Hot tub? Pool? Trampoline?

And the joy of letting go…my theme for this year…let it go, let it go…

All is well. That wasn’t so bad.

On to new dreams and play spaces.

Life is good.

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Giving Tuesday

I’m not sure exactly what this is, but I liked the idea of it just from the name and that it’s been circulating around the internet this week.

I just decided to look it up and here is what it is about from their website: http://community.givingtuesday.org/Page/About

What is #GivingTuesday?

“We have a day for giving thanks. We have two for getting deals. This year help us create #GivingTuesday. A new day for giving back. On Tuesday December 3, 2013, global charities, families, businesses, community centers, students and more will come together to create #GivingTuesday.

It’s a simple idea. Just find a way for your family, your community, your company or your organization to come together to give something more. Then tell everyone you can about how you are giving. Be a part of a national celebration of our great tradition of generosity.”

That is simple enough and I love the idea of giving. Absolutely love it. Which brings me to the story I wanted to share today without even really knowing it was a new labeled day that beats Black Friday and Cyber Monday. Giving Tuesday sounds so much better doesn’t it? But it makes me want to label the other days of the week… like Hump Day Wednesday and Thankful Thursday and Super Saturday and Sabbath Sunday. I feel a theme coming on.

But back to my story. My youngest is so excited about Christmas. Yesterday after school, he invited his friends to come in to see his Christmas tree after their Homework Club at another friend’s house. He couldn’t wait and was so proud and they just had to see it and all the ornaments and snow globes and stockings hung with care.

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He loves the spirit of Christmas just as much as I do. And I love that he wants to share it. Somehow we got onto the topic of giving after he shared again with me everything that was on his wishlist. I felt like I should share the other side of the joy of receiving and teach him about the joy of giving. I explained that it would be a good idea if he planned to pick out some gifts for his family and that we receive joy by giving and seeing that other people are happy too. He thought this was a great idea until I mentioned that he would have to bring his own wallet and use his own money. He asked me why he would want to spend his own money on other people. And there he opened the door even further to learn more about the art of giving and how when we give we also receive.

And so today I told him that I would take him to the Dollar Tree store with his wallet and $5 to thoughtfully pick out a gift for each of us. He was so excited and ready to go right away after school. He brought his reusable bag and he strolled the aisles, shopping away, hiding from me what he had picked especially for me. I wish you could have seen the look on his face and how proud he was when he gave the cashier his items and his own money and his bag. He was adorable and so cute. He picked out one item for each of us, and one Christmas item for himself since I said I would pay the tax.

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My happy little Santa!

When he got home, he wanted to give hints and tell us all why we were going to love what he picked and how we could use it and when and where, without giving us the secret. The anticipation he is feeling is so cool to witness and the joy he is experiencing from this giving process is so RAD!!

He quickly wanted to do his homework so that he would have time to wrap up each gift and be the first to have his gifts under the tree.

My heart is full.

My other two children also want to be part of this giving process. Christian and I snuck out alone after dinner and Juliana and I are going alone tomorrow.

This simple gift of giving and teaching my children this art was actually a gift to me. Gee, it really works.

Happy Giving Tuesday! I want to do it again!!

I AM so content.

Enjoy the spirit of giving, especially of your time, your love and yourself which are the best gifts of all! xo