Today I practiced reacting slowly and intentionally without emotion attached to the reaction in response to events.
I practiced explaining my thoughts and considered the other person’s point of view as equal to mine. I considered and acknowledged their intentions before reacting with mine. I created space for connections and didn’t overthink and flowed with what came our way. By not reacting and adding fuel to possible conflict, there wasn’t any conflict. I was part of the solution. a-ha.
This was a good, a-ha moment! I want to continue to practice this one. It’s harder than it sounds, especially when I want to be right. Don’t we all?
I am not trying to attract attention, but maybe I am.
I am trying to attract like mindedness with my kid, who at the moment (this morning), is frustrating me. He has a very strong will and so do I and I’m the mama so I have seniority and tenure, as if that means anything. I find that when I react in a negative way (think yelling and threatening to take away everything he desires), I attract negative behavior back. He mimics me or I mimic him or maybe we mimic each other.
I am practicing staying calm and focused on being kind and firm as I guide him and I together on our shared trajectory. I have so many things to still teach him and to learn myself, at least that is my intention. I am hoping that if I stay calm and don’t overreact, that he’ll mimic me and listen and learn about cause and effect and make good choices too. I am still learning and practicing repetition, breathing and patience. I know it works. It just takes time to practice and it isn’t easy and it’s work. UGH.
All good things take work. I’ll keep practicing and loving on him as we grow up together, one day, one hug at a time. I’ll check back with you in 7 years and let you know how this little experiment turns out. 🙂