Several of my friends have lost their mamas recently. This makes me feel sad and vulnerable and I have empathy, imagining what this gap must feel like to them.
I have fear of losing my own mama and just want to love her up, not knowing how much time we have left together. We never know for any of us, of course, but seeing my friends experience this time in their lives makes me think.
It makes me aware that time is passing and that we are aging and so are our parents.
This weekend I will celebrate my other mama and grieve along side my friend and my other family as we celebrate her beautiful life together and share memories and stories from over the past years. We will remember.
Wishing comfort and peace and love to all who grieve, and especially to Cindy, Laura, and Katie. Be well, friends.
We went to a celebration of life today and this was the message.
Be sure to tell someone you love that you love them.
Wishing you peace in understanding and in misunderstandings.
Tomorrow we will celebrate the life of Chase Varney, who is one of our family
Click here to read about Chase: Chase’s Legacy
Today we skipped school and sports and drove 6 hours to be with family, so that we could be together and be ready for tomorrow morning.
We have felt lots of stress and anxiety and fear this week, as well as love and uncertainty. We’ve laughed and cried, sat silently and yelled, missed assignments and appointments and forgot the ice cream in the car. We are a mess.
Losing Chase has affected so many, from friends to loved ones, and to those who didn’t even know him. We are filled with sorrow. With his passing, we are keenly aware that life is uncertain, unpredictable, and unfair, even when you do what’s right. This is not comforting and yet it’s raw and real and we are vulnerable. There are no guarantees, which is why we try to live life to the fullest with love and laughter every day.
Tomorrow we will celebrate Chase and hold on to each other for comfort, as we navigate the next steps that are to come.
Godspeed, Chase. We love and miss you so much and we wish your family the strength to carry on.
MamMam’s funeral was today in Colorado and we had to miss it. Jeff flew back from being with his family late Monday night and we would have had to return last night to make it in time. We decided to give the family time together to grieve and share the memories and to plan a special trip in the next month or so to celebrate her life and share stories together, once things have settled a bit. Thank you to all who have sent us well wishes and blessings. We appreciate you.
I usually do ok with death and understanding and accepting how life changes and flows, but for some reason, this one is shaking me a bit more than I would have expected. I truly loved the woman that she was and all that she represented. I admired her for all that she was and all that she gave to her family and friends. I loved that we shared the sisterhood of PEO too, that gave us a common bond.
I contacted her PEO sisters in Colorado after she died, and this was extremely comforting to me. I loved that we shared this connection and that the women there loved her so much. Suzy sent me several emails and told me that she and several other sisters attended the funeral today and sat with PopPop, sharing loving memories of MamMam. By her being there, I felt like I was there too.
I am thankful for family and sisterhood and this beautiful life. Rest in peace, MamMam and bless you PopPop and family as we take the next few steps in this life journey without beautiful Elaine Hughes.
Here is the link to MamMam’s obiturary: http://www.legacy.com/obituaries/gazette/obituary.aspx?n=elaine-hughes&pid=170744363&