Today was a gorgeous day. The sunlight was amazing and lasted late into the warm night.
Charlie wanted to go back outside one more time before it was too dark. I resisted at first, saying he needed to finish his homework. He promised he would and begged for ten more minutes with the cool breeze on his face.
I had just mentioned how I loved the feel of the cool breeze coming in from the kitchen window and he used my words. How could I resist?
I told him okay, he could go out again, if he’d come back and study a bit more. He then asked me if I wanted to come outside with him, and of course, my thoughts were no way! I was done. It was almost 8pm and I was ready to be resting on the couch. He asked me again, saying he wanted to play with me. How could I resist?
I have all these wise women who have taught me along the way that the time we have with our kids is actually short and that we will miss them wanting us one day. I believe in their wisdom, so I said yes. I went outside, anyway, despite my reservations and different expectations. I enjoyed shooting baskets with him and seeing how good he is at long shots. I loved how he shared the ball with me. I loved the neighbor’s dog who came up on the driveway to greet us. I did it anyway and was happy I did. I always am and never regret doing the work once I do it and actually dive in.
What are you resisting and would you be happier if you did it anyway? I’m curious.
We felt like we had the beach to ourselves today. The sun was shining and there wasn’t any wind. We were lucky to have nothing to do. I love this sleepy little town.
We dipped our toes in the ocean and walked along the sandy shore. We loved the feeling of the million little rocks under our feet and seeing how the high tide created a mini-pool higher up on the beach.
Some of us built rock art and others played three flies up. We walked in the little shops and admired creative sand sculptures.
I’m so glad my parents came to spend some time with us, doing “nothing” together and being perfectly content.
Life is good.
I like to have a circle of BFFs so that I always have someone to walk with and play with and confide in on this journey of life. I learn so much from my girlfriends, including my mom and sisters and aunts and daughter, and need them as role models, surrounding me and coaching me and guiding me and offering comfort and love and laughter and companionship. And I hope I offer the same for them too.
I want all women to walk with confidence and to laugh and be silly and to have fun and enjoy each other and to enjoy themselves and to live their truth, without judgement.
When I’m with women, I like to see their beauty (both inner and outer) and find their strengths. I like to hear what they have to say, even when their opinions are different than mine because they challenge me to think and I love this. I like to find connections between us and within our groups. I like to hear womens’ stories and about what their lives are like and how they do things. I like to learn from them. I love seeing the good and authentically sharing my thoughts and celebrating us.
Our words are powerful. Our egos sometimes get in the way and I want to protect us and each other, so that we can be our best selves and not be afraid or feel threatened by the gifts and talents of the women in our circles.
I think this is how we make the world a better place. We see the good in each other, despite our flaws and quirks and we keep on loving, keep on laughing, and keep on living. We forgive and we let go and we love over and over again and it never ends. Some friends we hold close, and some friends with a little cushion of space, and some friends we let go, but we always do so with love.
This is what I want to teach my daughter. This is how I want to teach her to be a friend. And I hope that she goes out and helps support and lift up other girls and women, as she finds her way on her own journey, sharing and celebrating this wonderful life she’s been given, laughing along the way.
Goodnight, BeLoveRs and thank you for your friendship. xo