Adapting

How quick are you to adapt?

Life is constantly changing and we really have no control over our circumstances, even though we pretend we do. We so want control over our lives and plan every minute, but really we are at the mercy of the universe.

We only get to control how we adapt to what is delivered to us.

“It is not the strongest of the species that survives, nor the most intelligent that survives. It is the one that is most adaptable to change.” – Charles Darwin

We are always in a state of change, from aging to health to jobs and friends and living and dying and everything else in between.

How quickly are we even able to realize that life is changing and how quickly do we develop new routines based on our new and ever changing circumstances?

Do we drag our feet? Jump right in? Create new routines? Complain? Embrace the change? Or what?

We all have a free will and we can choose to adapt quickly or drag our feet. We can resist change or we can embrace the change and enjoy the new level of life and accept what is.  This can be really, really hard!  But we must adapt, and the quicker the better so that we can continue living happily ever after on a new plane of what is.

Meet yourself where you’re at. See the change and figure out where you’re going next to become the new, best version of yourself and to enjoy what is, what you have, and who you’re with.

I’m in the process of adapting to having independent teenagers. This is a new summer experience for me and I am adapting to being a chauffeur and chef and not being in charge of creating our shared experiences and accepting that sometimes I am not included in the experiences at all.  It’s not comfortable for me and yet I am adapting, slowly and am ready to speed up the process of acceptance, like today. I’m there.

What about you? What change are you experiencing?  Are you adapting quickly, or dragging your feet? Are you aware that there is even a change occurring?  The quicker we can adapt, the quicker we can find peace and continue creating our new happily ever after.

Don’t you love this constantly changing life?

Thanks Trish, for the topic idea for today!! Sometimes it’s challenging to think about what to write every day and I like how you made me think. Thank you, Love.

Goodnight, BeLoveRs. This world needs our love. Prayers for Maddy’s family in Santa Cruz and may you somehow find peace with the injustice that has come your way.

nAMaste

Are You Happy?

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Happiness is “simple.” We just have to follow this little flow chart.  I don’t think we should always expect to be happy though. Sometimes we need to wait until we’re ready to change again.  I think being aware that we are unhappy is healthy too.  We just have to decide how long we want to stay where we are.

If this was my own creation, I’d add another arrow leading from “Change Something” back up to the continuos happiness cycle, asking the question again after you change something to determine if that leads to happiness or not. Just because you change something does not necessarily lead to happiness again.  I think we have to always be asking the questions and making decisions, every day. We’re never done.

The only thing that is constant is change.

Today I was happy having a mother daughter date with my teenager. I love that she wants to be with me and that I want to be with her. I love her company and watching her grow up, although today I wanted to slow down time. We both went to get haircuts together. Her hair is curlier than mine and we both had ours blown out and smoothed, the way only a hairdresser can make it shiny and sleek.  Seeing her look so beautiful and grown up made me proud and awe struck again. She looked older and I think I looked a little younger, somehow. It’s weird to see me in her and her in me.

Celia made me think of parenthood this week with her FB post that said:  “When you become a parent, you stop being the picture and become the frame.”  Looking at Juliana today, I saw the picture developing and love my role as the loving boundary and frame.

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I am happy.