Women vs. Men and Getting Ready

Do you ever think about how much time you spend getting ready for the day or if you’re a girl, how much time guys spend getting ready compared to you?

I mean how much time do you spend picking out your clothes and shoes and accessories? And how much time do you spend shaving your legs, washing and conditioning your hair, putting on makeup and styling your hair? Probably a lot longer than men do. Men have a time advantage that women choose to give up to be “pretty.”

I tend to not care either way, but I definitely notice a difference in the way I feel and how others see me when I choose to invest time in myself. This is a conundrum to me.

I am perfectly content to go out with no makeup, hair up in a pony tail and work out clothes on. I’m happy to go out with makeup and curly, wild hair. I feel prettiest when I take the time to blow out my hair and straighten it and when I put on makeup and cute clothes and shoes. However, the latter takes me an hour whereas the not caring might take me 15 minutes. 5 out of 7 days I probably choose the quickest way out the door, little makeup and wet hair in a pony tail/bun twist. However, when I do take the time to take care of me, I do feel better, which makes me wonder. Is it worth it?

Today I took the time to get ready and felt really happy about that. Maybe that’s what people saw, or maybe they saw that I took time for myself and was happy on the inside and it shined on the outside. Or maybe I looked more put together than usual.  Who knows? i know that I liked the way it felt to have done the work to look “shined up” and I know that I don’t like the amount of time I spent getting to that state.

What are your thoughts? Do you take the time to get ready every day? Or do you skip a shower, go out with your workout clothes and don’t care?  I’m so curious.  I’m always trying to maximize all the things I can get done in a given day, and blow drying my hair isn’t high on my list. Except for today.

You’re beautiful just the way you are, with makeup or not. Don’t forget. And it’s okay to take time for yourself, if that’s what you wish for yourself.

Good night!!

6 thoughts on “Women vs. Men and Getting Ready

  1. I (almost) always take the time to at least put on jewelry and clothes that are not workout clothes. I feel naked without earrings. I’m lucky my hair survives sleeping on it and looks ready to go every day. I only wash it two, maybe three times a week. On the days I go to the gym before work, I can get ready afterwards with a quick shower, makeup, jewelry, clothes and hair in about 20 min.

    • You always look good Marcia! I’ve always been inspired by you and how you where jewelry and are put together. You care and take the time and it shows. How can you get ready in 20 minutes???? That is amazing. Teach me your secret. My hair alone takes twenty minutes to dry and if I dry it, it will be so frizzy.

  2. Yep, I wrestle with this, too. I think it is much easier for us Stay-at-Home people because we don’t feel like we have people around to impress. I’m almost always in workout clothes because I do this in the am and then sometimes don’t get out of them until way too late in the day.
    I feel GREAT if I take the time to make myself look nice but I don’t often do this. I do try and look a little nicer for my husband before he comes home. So 1950’s of me!
    Men have it SO lucky! But, women are both revered and criticized in our society – all eyes on us. We just have to not internalize the criticism (except where needed) and accept the praise when we do feel awesome. Geez, that’s all a little deep for a Friday morning. 😛

    • I totally agree with you 100% and you captured the conflict that I feel. I want to work out and I want to clean my house and shop and do all the stay-at-home mom/ work-from-home stuff, and I want to look nice when my husband comes home too. I want to do it all and I typically run out of time and give myself 5 minutes to shower, get dressed, and go! I’m comfortable and confident in my sweaty clothes, no makeup, messy hair look and know that when I spend the extra time I can feel it from the inside out. It’s all good. Maybe one day on, one day off… balance. yin. yang. 😉

  3. You are beautiful either way but we don’t always have the time to put into it. I want it quick so I usually don’t put much time into getting ready unless it is very special.

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    • Thank you, Pat. I don’t give up time to get ready most of the time. But when I do, I’m always happy with the results. I would rather be doing 101 other things, though…so it’s always a struggle for me!

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